Transparency is about being vulnerable and sharing from our hearts. We hesitate to be transparent because we feel that talking about our fears and hurts will let other people know that we are not perfect. We prefer that people believe we have everything under control.
But when we are troubled, it helps to talk about it to a trusted friend. To be transparent is to seek counsel from other people and to lean on others for support during difficult times. It’s okay to let others know that we have weaknesses. They may have exactly what we need to get through our struggles. But we have to be willing to let down our guards, allowing others to see that our lives are not perfect.
It can be very difficult to be genuinely transparent. We see this on Facebook—people post the positive aspects of life, and others begin to believe that some people do not face problems. In reality, we are all broken people.
It is also important to be transparent when we discover problems that need addressed. Pretending that all is well to avoid an uncomfortable situation enables the trouble to continue. Be honest when you see situations that need correction, but do it in a kind and gentle way. People will appreciate your transparent and genuine counsel, and revealing true and sincere feelings will increase trust in your relationships.